The family behind it.

A short, honest account of who writes this, and why the name is exactly what it says.

i.

Ben Cunningham.

Ben, Ploy and their three sons on a beach in Thailand, September 2026

Ben is an American, from the Pacific Northwest, baptized at thirteen in a Baptist church in Texas, and living now in a village in Surin province in northeastern Thailand with his wife Ploy and their three sons. He works as a logotherapist in Frankl's broad sense — he coaches people, most of them men, most days; he teaches a meaning curriculum to young men with their fathers present; and for ten years before any of this had a name he taught English as a volunteer in village schools in Isan. He holds no clinical license and says so on every page where it could matter.

His own family calls him "the Baptized Buddhist" — a nickname that started as a joke about how often he was in two places at once, a church one morning and a temple the next, and became the truest short description anyone in the family has found for how he actually thinks. He was married before, and it ended. His three sons are named for three men who freed people, and he will tell you that was not a coincidence.

Before Thailand he spent twenty years in Oregon building businesses that a Viennese psychiatrist could have been describing from the consulting room. He has written about that here, against the list the Buddha gave, and without arguing with the text.

ii.

Ploy.

Ploypailin Cunningham was born in Bangkok to parents who had gone there from a village in Surin to work, and was raised in that village by her grandmother while her mother earned in the city — which is the ordinary Isan childhood, and millions of Thai children are living it right now. She learned her first English from cassette tapes at her grandmother's house. In November 2010, at ten, she won a gold medal in English storytelling. At thirteen she was riding a motorcycle eighteen kilometers each way, alone, to the district high school, where she passed the entrance examination for the special program — and her family could not pay the fee.

She runs the businesses in the family. The land the family house stands on was given by her mother's family; the house is next to her grandmother's. The sons are being raised fluent in both the family's traditions and both of its languages, without ever being asked to choose one over the other.

iii.

Rooted in both, in practice.

A house blessing for the Cunningham family, a Buddhist monk presiding, April 2025

The house blessing, April 2025 — a monk presiding, the whole family taking part, the name of the family in Thai over the flowers. "Baptized Buddhist" isn't a brand built around a clever contradiction. It's the plainest possible description of a household that draws on a baptism and a temple in the same week, and has stopped apologizing for it.

Where to go next

Read the writing, or see the practice.

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